In particular, there are two words that you have the right to absolutely ignore when someone dares to say them to you: "must" and "can't".
"You must" do this: this recently came up when I was trying to determine if I could afford to participate in a project on top of all the things I am working on for my business (oh, and all the stuff I do at home too). I was told I must participate! Ok, the last time someone said "you must" to me was when I was 10 years old and my Mother was telling me to make my bed. (Note: I don't make my bed anymore except when I have company or when I wash the sheets).
"You must" takes all the energy out of wanting to help people, wanting to contribute something unique. "You must" means that the other person thinks they know better how to run your life. If you ever hear this, you have my permission (as if you need it!) to totally wipe it from your brain, because it can cause you to make a rash decision: either to do what you "must" to please (or shut up) the other person, or to not do what you "must" in rebellion.
"You can't" is also something that I heard recently when I was discussing the projects I want to launch for the next year. "You can't" means I don't have the energy to complete everything I set in my plan, it means I am not capable. NOT TRUE! And it's not true for you either. Anything we set our hearts, minds and resources to can be done. Sure, maybe we need help or some creative plan to make it all happen, but that doesn't mean that we can't! If anyone dares say this to you, I suggest that you use it to drive your determination to make it happen.
Remember that you are the creator of your dreams and you are the one who knows how to realize them. You know where best to put your energy, and no-one, even the wisest person on the planet, knows better than you. Good luck with your scheming and dreaming!
