We all have read or heard motivational speakers or coaches or psychologists talk about "releasing". I've always had a problem with releasing, it just seems fake in a way. Sure, you think I'm going to let go of something I've believed all my life and "Bam!" life gets great and I'm "healed"???? Ok, it just doesn't work that way. Let's use a simple example: I have a desire to draw. But I "know" since I was a child that I am simply not gifted in art; in fact, my High School art teacher told me that he would pass me only on the condition that I would NEVER take another art class from him. So every time I feel a need to draw, I say "I can't draw". This belief may be even linked to other deeper beliefs (I'm no good at anything creative, I can't express myself visually, I'm such a loser when it comes to left-brained activities).
It's quite clear that a lifetime of reinforcement like the above example will be difficult to question or challenge. True, there are techniques that help us bring doubt to our beliefs. But my "PIAF coach" takes a different approach. The way I interpret my experiences so far, it is more like he helps me visualize a life where the belief doesn't matter. In the art example, I visualize a life where it doesn't matter whether I am good or not good at art, the measurement becomes irrelevant. Essentially I ask myself: what would my life look like if I chose to ignore this belief. And I guess that is what people mean by "release". I don't necessary stop believing, I just choose to ignore that I believe this, I make the belief meaningless, without relevance to my life.
Ok, so what does that mean? It means that I don't have to consider whether I am right or left-brained when I try to solve a problem. I don't have to apologize when I draw stick men to make a point. More importantly, I can access my creativity without the blockage I would have because of the belief. Ignoring the belief opens up so many doors that I had closed in the past.
The result? A whole lot less stress because I don't have to "manage" situations to account for my beliefs. I can approach life with a lot less baggage. It doesn't mean that I won't run into other beliefs that hold me back. But I now have a tool that I can use to visualize how my life would be if I ignored these beliefs.
So, I'd better finish this blog because I have a whole lot of new doors to open!
(p.s. If you are curious about how to open your own doors, how to enter the world of PIAF, let me know and I'll put you in touch with "the PIAF coach").
